Surviving Tantrums 1: Understanding Children
The main step in parenting skills is to connect with the child. Empathy and acknowledgement (along with ample reserves of patience) are the foundation for diffusing the situation. For parents with infants, establishing a connection can literally mean a physical connection. As they grow, the need for staying close remains; proximity can be the first step in restoring calm. For those with older children with strong wills, it may be more useful to give options through asking questions rather than giving commands. This reestablishes authority while allowing the child to feel the connection is two-sided.